Trust me, I know what I'm doing

Trust is not something you get for free.Trust is something you earn.
It is a highly complex concept that depends on many, many things but mostly experience, bad or good.There is a big role played by personal attitude, assessment of the situation, so at the end you decide if you should trust someone or not, but, the way I see it our personal experiences have the biggest say in it.

Good thing about trust is that once you get it, you get close to the person who trusts you.Once you trust someone, you get close to the person you trust. Being close to other people is a good thing.
Bad thing is, once you give it, you get opened (would not want to use the word vulnerable, but, YES vulnerable too) to other people that got your trust.Once you earn someone's trust you get access to their personal stuff that other people do not have.Sooo......being close to other people, sucks??? 

From this we can deduce a simple dumb truth: trust no one, you'll be alone, trust everyone you'll be vulnerable.
Find some middle ground.... if you're lucky you might find a couple of friends that will not use your vulnerability.Although trusting even a few people, might mean the same thing as giving in completely as if you give your trust to someone who does not deserve it, that will end bad. If someone DOES use your trust for personal benefits,well......that's gonna hurt, and you will remember that shitty event for life.

What I think we should all understand is that if someone trusts you, and you betray that trust, for that person this is a straight-up slap over the face.Worse, actually, the slap hurts less. Yes, I am comparing emotional with physical pain, but that is the only way I can describe it and not sound like a Latino soap opera.
Also we should understand that once you loose someone's trust, that thing is not gonna come back. And that pulls other strings as well as trust is often the basis for many things, relationships, business deals, team sports.....

So we have this complex construct in the base of some rather important parts of our lives, we cannot shield ourselves from it completely and we cannot give in completely.

What I guess is the only thing we can do in this world is learn from our experiences and be careful who are we dealing with or better yet think before we do so. Nowadays we live in a concrete jungle, and we cannot expect that the lion will not eat us just because we did not eat the lion.

Also, smarter people then me wrote on this subject way before blogs so Shakespeare's advice from one of his so-called "problem" works "All's Well That Ends Well" seems to apply since then until the end of time:
Love all, Trust a few, do wrong to none
Easier said than done, Shakespeare..... easier said than done.... 

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